There’s a specific kind of guilt that comes with hiring a cleaner.
You might feel it when you’re scrolling through cleaning services online. Or when you’re on the phone booking your first clean. Or even after they’ve left and your home is sparkling — a small voice whispering, “I should have been able to do this myself.”
If you’ve ever felt that guilt, you’re not alone.
So many of our clients tell us they wrestled with it before reaching out. They worried what people would think. They felt like they were admitting defeat. They questioned whether they “really needed” help or if they were just being lazy.
But here’s what we want you to know: asking for help isn’t giving up. It’s one of the smartest, most self-aware things you can do.
Somewhere along the way, we absorbed this message: a good parent, a good partner, a capable adult should be able to keep their home clean on top of everything else.
Work full-time? Handle it. Raising kids? You’ve got this. Managing a household, cooking meals, doing laundry, staying on top of life admin? Of course you can do it all.
And if you can’t? If the bathroom hasn’t been properly scrubbed in weeks, if the floors are perpetually sticky, if the clutter keeps mounting? Well, that must mean you’re failing somehow.
Except… that’s rubbish.
Our grandmothers knew this — it’s why “homemaker” was an actual role, not something squeezed in between everything else.
But now? We’re expected to do it all. Work, parent, manage households, maintain relationships, look after our health, and keep a spotless home. All while making it look effortless.
It’s not realistic. And it’s definitely not fair.
Even when the cleaning gets done (sort of), there’s still the mental load of managing it.
You’re the one noticing the bathroom needs cleaning. Remembering the bins need to go out. Seeing the dust accumulating on the ceiling fan. Adding “clean the oven” to the ever-growing mental to-do list.
And that constant awareness? It’s exhausting.
It means you’re never fully off duty. Even when you’re sitting down, supposedly relaxing, part of your brain is running through everything that needs doing.
The dishes in the sink. The sticky patch on the kitchen floor. The shower screen that’s starting to look grimy. The pile of laundry waiting to be folded.
Naomi had been struggling with her mental health for years, and like it does for many, it began to show in her home. The dishes, the clothes, the everyday tasks — they slowly built up until it all felt too heavy.
One day, while scrolling through Facebook, she found The Clean Life. With a shaky voice, she called and shared what she was going through.
“I’m not going to judge you,” Beckii told her — and Naomi still remembers that moment.
From then on, it wasn’t just about cleaning.
It was about walking with her through the process, showing her she wasn’t alone. Our team moved gently, listened carefully, and supported her every step of the way.
As her space transformed, something in her started to shift too.
She described it as a new beginning — a fresh breath.
In her words:
“It wasn’t just cleaning. It was wanting to change someone’s life.”
At The Clean Life, that’s what we believe in.
A clean home isn’t just about tidy surfaces — it’s about helping someone feel at home in their own life again.
We’re honoured to be part of Naomi’s journey.
You can watch her story here.
And we’ll be here, always, when someone else is ready to take that first step too.
When you hire The Clean Life, here’s what you’re really getting:
- Time: Hours back in your week. Hours you can spend however you want — with your family, on hobbies, catching up on rest, or doing absolutely nothing.
- Mental space: The relief of not carrying that constant mental to-do list. Not noticing every bit of grime. Not feeling guilty every time you sit down because there’s still so much to do.
- Physical energy: Cleaning is hard work. Especially deep cleaning — the scrubbing, bending, reaching, carrying. When someone else handles it, you’re not spending your weekends physically exhausted.
- Peace of mind: Knowing it’s handled. Knowing your home is actually clean, not just surface-level tidy. Knowing you can have people over without scrambling to make it presentable first.
Permission to prioritise differently: You get to decide what deserves your time and energy. And maybe cleaning just isn’t high on that list. That’s okay. That doesn’t make you lazy. It makes you human.
If you’re still wrestling with whether hiring help is “okay,” try asking yourself these questions:
Would you judge a friend for hiring a cleaner? Probably not. You’d probably think, “Good for them for prioritising their wellbeing.” So why hold yourself to a different standard?
What would you do with those hours back? If cleaning takes you 4-6 hours a week, what could you do with that time instead? Sleep more? Spend time with loved ones? Work on something that actually lights you up? Is that not worth it?
What’s the cost of not asking for help? Chronic exhaustion. Resentment. Weekends spent scrubbing instead of living. Constant guilt about never being “on top of it.” Is that really better than letting someone help?
Are you modelling something important? If you have kids, what are you teaching them? That you have to do everything yourself, even when you’re drowning? Or that it’s smart and healthy to ask for help when you need it?
Still on the fence about getting help? Here’s what’s possible when you stop trying to do it all alone.
This could be your home. Not just once—but consistently, all summer long.
Hiring a cleaner isn’t about admitting defeat. It’s about acknowledging that you have limits — and that’s okay.
It’s about deciding that your time, energy, and wellbeing matter.
It’s about refusing to run yourself into the ground trying to meet impossible standards.
It’s about creating space in your life for what actually matters to you.
And honestly? That’s brave. That takes self-awareness and courage.
Because it means pushing back against all the messages telling you that you should be able to do it all. It means prioritising your peace over other people’s judgements.
If you’ve been thinking about reaching out but haven’t quite taken the leap — this is your sign.
You deserve support. You deserve to feel lighter. You deserve to come home to a clean space without having to sacrifice your weekends to create it.
We’re here, ready to help. No judgement. No pressure. Just genuine care and a commitment to making your life a little easier.
Because at The Clean Life, we believe asking for help isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom.
We’ve got you. 💚
Ready to let go of the guilt and feel that relief?
We’re here.
